The Power of Togetherness: Thanksgiving, Mental Health, and Healing
As we approach Thanksgiving, a holiday that is traditionally filled with family gatherings, gratitude, and comfort food, many of us may find ourselves reflecting on the people, moments, and things we are grateful for. But for some, the holidays also bring sadness, grief, or feelings of isolation. Whether you’re spending Thanksgiving without a loved one, dealing with the loss of a relationship, or simply feeling disconnected from your own sense of self, it’s okay to acknowledge these emotions.
For many, Thanksgiving may serve as a painful reminder of who is no longer at the table. The loss of a loved one, whether recent or from years past, often feels more pronounced during the holidays. The empty seat at the table, the missing voice, or the absence of familiar traditions can trigger deep emotions of sadness, longing, and even anger. Grief can feel isolating, and the pressure to put on a brave face for others can sometimes add to the weight of our pain.
2024 has been a year unlike any other for many of us. Challenges, disappointments, and obstacles may have made it difficult to connect with who we once were—or who we wanted to be. The weight of trying to survive difficult circumstances, whether it’s mental health struggles, financial stress, or other personal battles, can leave us feeling lost or out of touch with ourselves. Thanksgiving may bring up feelings of failure, because we don’t feel like we have ‘achieved’ the peace or happiness that we’re ‘supposed’ to have by now.
While the holidays can be a time of grief and longing, they are also an opportunity for healing. Being together with others, even when it feels difficult, can help us feel seen, heard, and understood. The simple act of sharing a meal, a conversation, or even a quiet moment with someone else can remind us that we are not alone. Even if we are not ‘feeling our best,’ these moments of connection—no matter how small—can help us remember that we are loved and valued.
This Thanksgiving, let’s also take a moment to extend some grace to ourselves. It’s easy to feel like we ‘should’ be more grateful, more happy, or more present. But it’s important to remember that it’s okay to feel exactly how we feel. The holidays don’t need to be perfect, and we don’t need to have all the answers. What’s most important is that we give ourselves permission to show up as we are—no matter how messy or imperfect it may feel.
If you find yourself struggling this Thanksgiving, remember that it’s okay to take things at your own pace and find small ways to make the holiday season more manageable. Here are a few practical tips that might help you navigate the challenges, stay grounded, and give yourself the space to heal and recharge.
Create New Traditions: If old traditions feel too painful this year, consider starting a new one that feels comforting and restorative for you. Whether it’s a quiet morning walk, a simple meal with close friends, or taking time for yourself to reflect, new rituals can help shift the energy and create space for healing.
Honor Your Loved Ones: If you’ve lost someone close to you, take a moment to remember them in a meaningful way. You might light a candle in their memory, share a favorite story, or even donate to a cause that was important to them. These small acts of remembrance can bring a sense of connection even when they’re not physically present.
Give Yourself Permission to Say No: The holiday season often comes with pressure to attend multiple gatherings or social events, but it’s okay to say no if you’re not up for it. Prioritize your mental and emotional well-being, and recognize that you don’t owe anyone an explanation. Taking care of yourself is the most important gift you can give this year.
Reach Out for Support: If you’re feeling isolated or overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to reach out for support. Whether it's a trusted friend, a family member, or a professional, talking to someone can help ease the burden and remind you that you're not alone. Sometimes, simply sharing how you feel can bring unexpected comfort.
Practice Small Acts of Gratitude: Even on difficult days, finding small moments of gratitude can help shift your perspective. Take a few minutes each day to jot down one thing you’re thankful for—no matter how small. Gratitude doesn’t mean ignoring your struggles, but it can help you stay connected to the positive things in your life, even if they feel fleeting.
As we gather around our tables this Thanksgiving—whether with family, friends, or even alone—let’s remember that the holidays are not just about celebrating happiness, but about honoring where we are in our journeys. We are all carrying something with us this year, and while it’s okay to feel grief, loss, or confusion, it’s also okay to embrace moments of peace, joy, and healing. Let’s allow ourselves the space to be both tender and strong, knowing that, together or apart, we are never truly alone.
